New year, new homework from my life coach. I sit down to write. Here is what I find out. I believe I am tired, i am convinced I do things half-ass and I definitely slouch. Not only do I believe the thoughts above but I think them on repeat, many times a day and feel terrible about …
yelling at kids
I’M SO BUSY!
What if we eliminated ‘so busy’ from our vocabulary??? Whenever I tell anyone I have 4 boys, 99% of people react “wow, you must be so busy!”. Although there is definitely truth in it, I never choose to say that about my life. Why? Because I feel extremely overwhelmed when I think that and there …
The Universe is friendly.
This morning I had a perfect window between groceries and the dentist to pick up my new glasses. I arrived early, before the glasses office was open and I sat in the car happily listening to my podcast. I knew I had 15 minutes from when the store opens to when my dentist appointment begins. …
Pain is not a problem.
What? I wish my coach told me that last weekend. I have been struggling with the headache for a while now. But to be honest it is a lot easier when we stop fighting the pain and stop avoiding it and resisting it. Whether it is your head or your emotional pain over your relationship …
When your kid says….
When your kids says “he told me that I am stupid and now I have the worst day ever…” What do I do? I used to hear that and I would instantly want to help, make them feel better, teach them a lesson, etc etc etc! (All so I could feel better by not hearing them complain about it). …
Action Despite Negative Emotion
In other words do it anyway, when you least feel like it. I didn’t feel like going for a workout today but i did. This message is simple but so powerful if executed every day on a lot of small actions. Here are a few of mine that i don’t feel like doing and do …
AM I THE RIGHT COACH FOR YOU?
What specifically do you help with? I get this question a lot and so I decided to share that here with you. I can help you if you: Are struggling in a relationship with your kid/parent/spouse/sibling/close one. You tried everything but nothing works and you are feeling sad and hopeless whenever you think about …
SHAME IS OPTIONAL!
Shame is an option. Here’s how it plays out. You can either hide and pretend that everything is fine after having a rough morning with the kids but inside you are crying. You are so ashamed of your own behaviour that you can’t possibly imagine sharing it with anyone. The extent to how much you …
Saying goodbye to what you expected
Sometimes you have to say goodbye to ideas in your head. “I expected it to to be different.” “This is NOT what I imagined for myself.” “I am not happy with how things turned out.” This whole idea of what it should have been is causing you pain right now. Come back to the way …
What is our husband really there for?
Our Manual for other people. Lets take your spouse for example. In your mind right now there is a list of things that you have that you would like him to do or the way you want him to be. For example: Put away the dishes. Remember our anniversary. Come to bed the same time …