It all started 6 years ago.
I was brushing my toddler’s teeth while my husband rocked our 5 month old baby to sleep.
It had been a long day, and a few long sleepless months.
I had not yet learned to manage my feelings, nor get my 2 year old to follow my directions.
Long story short, I lost my temper on my 2 year old because he wouldn’t cooperate with me.
It was not the first time I yelled at my kids, but it was the first time I really scared myself.
I did not want to be some out of control monster, visiting every time my kids wouldn’t listen.
I felt cornered, defeated, hopeless and hurt.
My husband heard my outburst and came to check on me.
He took over with the kids.
I went straight upstairs and called a psychologist.
I had been considering getting help with my anxiety in the past.
It seemed as though the time had now come.
That is where my journey began.
Over the next few years, I spent dozens of sessions with the psychologist.
I began to understand what was going on inside me, what was causing my anxiety, my angry outbursts, and the cause of my overwhelm.
I learned some coping strategies, how to get perspective, and how to set boundaries.
I had a start.
Fast forward 3 years.
My two boys had become four with the arrival of newborn twin boys. Four boys under 5. True wealth I tell ya! While the boys were healthy, beautiful and full of energy I was quickly loosing all of mine.
The pressure was high to feel better, to refill my tank, to do some self–care to meet my own needs.
My problem was that I had no idea how to do that, or even where to begin.
I had no clue what I wanted, and the things I thought I wanted never seemed to make me feel better at all.
This inability to meet my own needs and process my emotions was only compounding my frustration.
I wanted to make myself happy but didn’t know how.
I wanted to stop yelling at my kids for just being kids.
I did not have the tools to stop myself from taking my frustration out on them; to stop blaming them for my feelings.
I could not live like that any longer.
I had to dig deep and believe I could be better for myself, and I am so grateful I did.
I have found all the answers I needed, and even the ones I didn’t know I was looking for.
On my journey to yell free parenting I found a life coach who taught me that our thoughts create our feelings.
I learned how to create the life I want by managing my mind.
As a bonus I have also learned to stop all my emotional eating and drinking.
I have learned to process my emotions without avoiding them through food, tv or social media and the like.
As a result I can now maintain my normal body weight effortlessly. ( I have lost 18 lbs in the last year).
I have been able to connect with my husband and my children in a way I have always wanted, despite our differences.
I have improved my relationship with my mom to a point where we never fight and I truly enjoy her company.
I have learned to manage my anxiety and eliminate my overwhelm.
I have mastered time management, and have proven to myself I can truly do anything I set my mind to.
The thing I am most proud of is how I have improved my relationship with myself, and stopped yelling at my kids as a result.
Out of my struggle came a desire to help other moms who are struggling with their own yelling and frustration.
I love coaching women who believe there is a better version of themselves waiting for them.
I fully believe we are all 100 % worthy of love and self approval.
We can evolve into the version of ourselves that brings us the most joy.
The version of ourselves we purposely decide to live.
I am an entrepreneur who coaches moms be their best self; for themselves and their kids.