Full Transcript of the Audio:
Hello my friends!
Welcome to my first audio blog!
I’m so excited to talk to you today and we are talking about Actions!!!
What fuels your actions? Have you ever wondered why you just can’t make it to the gym sometimes or why you keep yelling at the kids?
Well I’m here to tell you that all your actions are driven by what you are feeling.
For example! Me recording this audio is an action. This action is fuelled by my feeling of determination. I feel determined to record it and my actions are doing everything I can to get it done.
Another example of an action is Inaction. For me it was procrastination with this recording. I was stuck in INaction for 3, 4 weeks before recording it.
Why was I doing that? Because the feeling fuelling my INAction was FEAR.
Why was I feeling scared?
Because my thought about it was : “This is terrifying, I’ve never done it before, I might sounds stupid”.
SO as soon as I figured out that I was procrastinating I put this model into action. I switched my thoughts to “I will get it done no matter what” and here I am recording it.
This is super useful to know if you want to achieve your goals! If you are a mom who is dying to stop yelling at her kids you can apply this to your actions.
The first thing you ask yourself is What FEELING is driving my action?
Lets say you feel HELPLESS when you yell.
Next question you ask yourself is What am I THINKING that’s creating my feeling of HELPLESSness ?
Your answer could be “THEY Never listen to me!”
Now you have figured out that you are yelling not because of your kids but because you are feeling helpless.
What’s causing you to feel this way is your thought “THEY NEVER LISTNE TO ME!”
This is so powerful to know for you that YOUR ACTION IS determined by your thoughts!!!!! And NOT by your kids!!!
Your kids are not responsible for you feeling helpless . You ARE! This is the best news ever because it gives you all your power back and now we can figure out how to act in a way that makes you proud of yourself.
If you want to be calm with your kids you need to ask yourself a question – what do I need to be feeling in order to be calm?
You may decide you want to feel calm or peaceful.
Then we ask – what do I need to THINK in order to feel CALM??
I’ve decided to think “I’m in control of myself, they are doing exactly what they need to be doing.” So this thought creates a feeling of calm and drives an action of NOT yelling.
So there you have it, whatever type of CALM MOM you want to be – you can simply pick a feeling and a thought to go along with it and practice it! It won’t come natural at first. It may feel awkward and uncomfortable but if you keep on practicing you will get better and better at it.
In fact You can apply this to any action you would like to take and figure out the emotion behind it that you need. And then pick one thought you need to think in order to feel that way. And Practice, Practice, Practice!
So I hope you find this useful and apply it in your own life.
Thanks for listening!
Talk to you next week!