I’m sorry, you are right
I say this a lot.
I used to have a really hard time apologizing.
I used to fight, avoid and blame.
My fights would drag out into hours and sometimes days.
I didn’t know how to do it better.
My mentor Brooke Castillo taught me to always agree with whatever I’m being accused of.
And not in a fake way, not in a way to just diffuse the fight but still keep believing I’m right.
In a way where I can truly find the truth in what the other person is saying.
Even if it’s 1% true.
I agree with them.
“You are right, I wasn’t thinking of you at all. I’m sorry.”
“It’s true, I did do that thing. I’m sorry.”
I don’t go into explaining what my true intentions were, I don’t justify it to them, I don’t make excuses.
Not of that serves me.
By making excuses I create more distance between me and that person.
I own everything that I’m accused of and if I can’t see get there in that moment then I take my time TO see it, to find the ounce of truth in it.
Sometimes it takes me a minute or a day.
It is always worth it.
It gives me so much peace to AGREE with them.
And when I sincerely apologize for whatever I’ve done I create connection and make my relationship stronger with that person.
I have saved so much time by not fighting and dwelling in who’s right and who’s wrong.
Just by finding the truth in what they say I have created so much trust and growth and connection with people in my life.
Try it my friends.
There is no upside defending your position.
Own your shit and notice how much time you save and how connected you feel to the people in your life !