It is the ability and willingness to feel any feeling.
You are self-confident if you are not afraid to feel
What is the worst that can happen in life?
What makes those things bad for us?
The only way they are bad for us is through our feelings about them.
When they happen we feel pain, loss, humiliation, hurt, fear.
We are afraid we will be permanently damaged if these things happen.
That is not true.
If we are willing and able to process any feeling and stay with it as long as needed we will come out stronger and more confident on the other end.
That is all that’s required of us: to be willing to feel any feeling.
When we avoid ‘life’ because we are avoiding feeling horrible we think we are doing what’s best for us.
We think we are being safe, smart by choosing what’s predictable, comfortable and familiar.
What in fact happens is we are having doubts about ourselves.
We don’t know if we can handle what happens to us.
We are not sure if we can handle losing a close one, getting divorced, going for that promotion and being rejected.
When we are having self doubt we are creating the opposite of self-confidence.
What is your opinion of yourself and is it creating self-confidence or self-doubt?
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