Last night my second son asked me what I did that day (even though he was here with me the whole day lol)
I listed all the things. He said ‘what else?’
I said ‘I cooked dinner…, hm, I cooked lunch… and HOLLY SMOKES I cooked breakfast TOO !! WHAT THE HECK!!!!”
I literally said those things out-loud and could NOT believe what I was saying with my own mouth.
Because I HAVE BELIEVED ALL MY LIFE THAT I’M A PERSON WHO DOESN’T COOK!
(notice how i said that I believed instead of I am – huge difference between the two! obviously because what I thought was completely different from what I was doing)
I THOUGHT I am a person who doesn’t cook so how is it possible that I cooked 3 meals that day for my whole family ???!!! (6 people – no big deal!!!)
TO be honest I was a bit furious with my own brain for doing that!
HOW dare you keep on believing something about me that is NOT EVEN TRUE!!!
I DO EFFING COOK! —- POOF – that old story GONE.
And yes I type in caps because that is how outraged I was at my own brain! Also I was a bit delighted about this new discovery about myself and entertained, because it is funny I could believe that AND cook 3 meals that day !!! So good!
If my son never asked me that question I would have kept on believing that I’m a person who DOESN’T COOK! RIDICULOUS!
So yes i’m having an identity crisis in the kitchen and in the rest of my life as well because i’m growing into a person who is a successful business person, who makes a lot of money and TALKS NICE TO HERSELF.
SO just like I dropped my story about me not cooking, I am realizing I have to drop my story now that ‘I don’t talk nice to myself’.
Because the me who talks nice to herself – NEVER thinks that.
That person thinks ‘I always talk nice to myself, that’s just what I do.’
It is true that for you to become who you want to become you have to have an identity crisis and give up all of your current stories about yourself.
What you think are facts about you are not at all facts or even true – they are simply thoughts you have practiced believing and then created a bunch of evidence to support them. That’s it.
Create NEW, BETTER STORIES about yourself and then practice those.
Love you guys!
P.S. This is a great example of what happens in coaching – I ask you a question and you tell me what you do and you tell me what you believe and if the two don’t match up I show that to you. YOU SEE IT. YOU see that you cooked 3 meals and you ALSO believe that you DON’T COOK – you brain is never the same after that. You walk away a different, better version of yourself. You drop the belief that is a LIE. Right there, without any convincing or trying to be ‘positive’ about it! JUST SEEING it does the job of no longer believing it.
I help you change your brain and the rest takes care of itself!!!
P.S.S. After working with me my mom was able to change her story of “I never finish anything” to “I follow through on what I have decided” and it didn’t happen overnight, she practiced it every day and created a bunch of evidence to support that new belief. And it all started with her getting coached and seeing her thoughts and actions.
I can help you with that as well! One on one coaching, just reply to this email now.