So you know how we are born, we go to school, get married, get a job, have kids. It’s a thing that we all do or try to do if we can. We may do it in a different order, skip some steps or take longer but it’s just what we do.
So when I came across my life coach who was offering her help I ignored it completely because it’s not what we do, I didn’t know anybody who was doing it so I didn’t even hear her offer at first.
Then when I heard some of her clients talk about their lives and what changed for them from working with her I was SOLD, I wanted some of that for me, hearing real people talk about how they could lose weight and start a business and make money, be confident- did it for me. I wanted all of those things! FOR ME!
But at the same time I thought this is just a scam, she just wants my money, may be I’m a fool, may be I can’t do this, and I definitely don’t want to spend money on this, nobody is doing it and they will definitely think I’m such a fool for paying money for this.
This is not what people do!
Hiring a life coach is not part of the plan! But I wanted to feel confident so badly, I wanted to be doing all those things those people were doing! So I had to literally convince myself that I can Become confident and be just like her clients who achieved all those things. I will admit it took me months to convince myself To even try it.
It wasn’t a gym membership, which is easy to share about with friends. It wasn’t even the same as going to a psychologist, which is more commonly done but not so commonly shared.
This was brand new and there was a big chance of it not working. Doing something that nobody is doing is scary.
But from my experience I gained my whole life by doing something that nobody is doing, I gained my confidence, my fun in life, I gained all the things I thought were impossible for me.
I lost the safety of being liked by everyone but I can’t even remember why that mattered now.
So I think it is so worth it to let yourself convince yourself to do something you want. Have a real conversation with yourself and negotiate. What do you want and what are the risks, and are you willing to work hard to get that.
Have a real conversation with yourself and negotiate. What do you want and what are the risks, and are you willing to work hard to get that result no matter what.
-Natalia P.S. Now I will share with you what my client said here so watch what your brain says and be curious about why it says that, does it say “it’s not for me” or “I wish I could have that” and be curious.
If you have been convincing yourself to do this I think you are ready, what is your one doubt that’s stopping you? I can help you overcome it so that you can also get what you like.
P.s.s. she says: “What you told me in our first chat blew my mind. I never really saw things the way that you described it and I knew the awareness was there but its kind of like you helped me recall it and you put it in a logical way which I am not able to do. I’m a very emotional person and you explained it so well that it was easy to understand and it made so much sense that it changed completely the way I was in control gain, I was no longer the passenger, I was the driver. I was in control again.”
