Archive March 2019

Our Manual For Our Kids

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I have a long manual for my kids and 2 mornings ago I found out that in that manual I have “My son must eat egg salad(he refused to take it for his lunch). He used to eat it and like it and so he must eat it and like it now”.

Have you guys had one of those mornings where you had a tantrum because of something idiotic as your child refusing EGG SALAD????

Yep, that was me.

Afterwards, when the kids have left for school and I was left alone with my own crazy, I sat down to work.

I filled out my manual and shook my head at the ridiculousness of it all.

Did I just really flip out and get super upset over my son saying no to whatever I offered him for lunch.

If I was to picture myself reacting that same way if my husband, or friend refused an egg salad then that sounds absurd and also I would never do that!.

But don’t we all have that with our kids sometimes???

“They used to eat this! I went through all the trouble of making this for them and now they tell me they don’t want it” . Rage. Full on rage.

I’m happy to say that I never run out of personal examples that help me relate to my clients. This is what we do. We do this to ourselves. Not our kids.

We say to ourselves: “ my kids should do this, or shouldn’t do that” and that causes ALL of our unnecessary suffering when they don’t follow our ‘manual’.

After all it is our MANUAL for them.

This is what they should do and how they should do it so that WE can feel good.

Don’t they know this by now?

We have only told them 50 million times!

Yet they still don’t want to eat the cursed egg salad!

Bummer..

This is the reason why I do what I do!

After that horrible morning fo screaming and fighting I coached myself, looked at what thoughts created that for myself, sat there, and looked at them, and really saw how ridiculous it all was, and from seeing it all on paper I had enough distance from it to really let go of that one manual item that was not serving me AT all.

Before I discovered coaching I would have had a day full of self loathing, may be even some more screaming, a bad mood and no end in sight, no way out, no real answers, no tools to feel better, truly better.

What a relief and how exciting to know exactly WHAT to do when life happens.

Do you ever find yourself hopeless and not doing well?

Let me help you!!!   

I love, love, love sharing my story and what I’ve learned so that you can feel better!

So fun.

May be a little hard for you but so fun for me!

So! Egg salad! You no longer are on my manual for my kids.  I am all good whether they eat it or not.

See you all next week!

Natalia

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Overwhelm

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Happy Sunday Everyone!

Thank you to everyone who was there for my presentation on How To Feel Better this week! I will be posting a video of it up next week in case you are interested.

This week i had a chance to study my own overwhelm and to report it back to you here.  Listen to my ‘podcast’ below to learn what i did to feel back in control.

Let me sum it up for you here: i came up with my own formula for overwhelm.
Here it is:

Thoughts about 1 New thing
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Thoughts About Lots of jobs
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Thought “How will i do it all?”
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Overwhelmed Mama

This is what i did to feel better:
1. Write down all the things i was thinking about

2. Ask “Can I do each of these things on their own?” – yes

3. Decided to THINK about only ONE thing i need to do now.

4. Decided NOT to think about ALL the things i need to do AT ONCE.
Hope this helps ! Comment below about what creates your overwhelm and how do you solve for it!

Have a great week everyone!

Natalia

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Lessons Learned From Marianne Williamson

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Based on her book: “A Return to Love.  Reflections on the Principles of A COURSE IN MIRACLES”

Hey there guys!

How’s your weekend going?

I’ve decide to start sharing with you who my teachers are and what they teach me. And here’s the first one in those series.  We’ll take a break from time management for a little bit and I’ll make sure to come back to it and wrap up all the other important parts so you guys have ALL the info you need to be in charge of your time.

One of my teachers that is Marianne Williamson.  She wrote this book called “A Return to Love” Reflections on the work of A Course in Miracles.

Here are a few of my favourite quotes from that book!

We will always learn what we have chosen to teach”.

I love this quote because I experience this with a lot of things in my life, small things like by teaching kids to ski I master the sport myself at a deeper level, and big things like teaching all you guys about how amazing you all are: I learn how amazing we all are, more than I have ever imagined.

 

“Since no thoughts are neutral, every relationship takes us deeper into heaven or deeper in to hell”

Such a simple way to look at relationships!!

All relationships are – are our thoughts.

If those thoughts are loving then you are creating a loving relationship (heaven for yourself) or if the thoughts are unloving then you create an unloving relationship (or hell) for yourself.

 

“Forgiveness is the key to inner peace because it is the mental technique by which our thoughts are transformed from fear to love.” 

Love thinking about forgiveness as a technique to transform our thoughts and feel better.

Whenever you are feeling bad that means your thoughts are fearful and you can use forgiveness to changes those thoughts to loving thoughts! Sounds easy right! But we all know it’s not always easy.

 

“We must reveal ourselves at the deepest level in order to find out how lovable we are.” 

That one spoke to me so much as I am going through my initial stages of starting a business and opening up on my blog, creating videos and all of it is requiring me to dig deep and work with the painful experiences that I’ve had and use them to teach.  It is so scary to open up! What if yo’all don’t like me ?!
But the opening up is so worth it as you gain such freedom in being exactly who you are, without hiding anything.  Whatever you are ‘hiding’ from others, I encourage you to open up and love yourself with all that exposed. Do it!

 

“Partners are meant to have a priestly role in each other’s lives.  They are meant to help each other access the highest parts within themselves.”

I’ve learned that to be true with my husband, the more we open up to each other and support each other the more growth we both experience.
It’s a beautiful thing if you can be as crazy as you can be with your partner and it’s all good, that’s when growth happens.

 

“We don’t get to the light through constant investigation of the darkness.  The only way to the light is through entering the light.”  

Wow, that is so true. Small things and big.  We don’t get to mental health through constant investigation into what’s wrong with us, we imagine and strive and work towards the mental health we DO want.

 

“It often seems that our lives get worse rather than better when we begin to work deeply on ourselves.  Life doesn’t actually get worse, it just that we feel our own transgressions more because we’re no longer anesthetiser by unconsciousness.”

Who here has found this to be true? I am raising my hand for this one.

 

“Your power is a result of your decision to reveal it.”

That is such an interesting way to describe it. Love it!

 

This next one I love because it can help anyone with promoting(in business and in life) themselves:

“If we think of selling – We’re afraid of either success or failure.  If we make the switch from selling to service we can focus on love. The issue is the presence of fear, and it’s inevitability whenever love is absent.”

This worked like magic for me to be able to show up for my clients and serve them on the highest level. “I am here to serve.” – Is all I have to say to myself and the fear disappears.

 

“When our desire is to give instead of get, our core belief is that we have so much abundance, we can afford to give it away.”

And this quote is why I’m here to serve you guys! I truly feel this way and I’m so pumped to share with you everything I know and see how amazing your lives become!

If you are looking to really study the teachings of The Course in Miracles, this book is an excellent choice, I would highly recommend it.

Love you guys!

Have a great week everyone!

Natalia

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Save Time with Massive Action!

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As i promised here is more on Time Management!

During the last 2 weeks ago I talked about Planning, Following through with your plan and then Deciding Strongly.

All those things will save you time, make you more time for things you want to do.

Once you’ve decided strongly you will start doing whatever it is you need to do for that decision.

And here is where Massive Action is absolutely necessary.

By taking Massive Action you will always always get a result.

The way to know if you’ve taking Massive Action is ask yourself this: Do i have the result I want?
If you do great, keep taking the same massive action to create the same result.
If you don’t, you just need to change massive action.

That’s it! Let me know how this works out for you! I’d love to answer any questions you have about this. Just shoot me an email IM me.

Have a great week!

Natalia

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